Still Choosing Her: Twenty Years and the Love Keeps Leveling Up

People talk about love like it’s a moment. A spark. A scene in a movie with perfect lighting and an indie song playing over it.

But what if the real magic isn’t in the falling—but in the staying?

Let me tell you about a woman named Nathalie.

She wrote a blog post recently—soft, honest, disarming in that way she always is. It was about love, about us, about twenty years of being together. And when I read it, I felt it in my chest like a bass drop.

She has this way of turning everyday chaos into poetry. Dogs barking, mugs half-full, crumbs from a late-night sandwich—she wraps it all in meaning, in grace, and gives it back to the world as something beautiful.

She Fixes the WiFi (No, Seriously)

Look, I’m the guy with the tech degree. I geek out over specs, cables, light temperature, and DSLR lenses.

But who fixes the WiFi when it throws a tantrum?
She does.

She quietly Googles her way to victory while I’m over here stress-rebooting the router like I’m hacking into NASA. She doesn’t brag about it (so I will). She just gets it done—then hands me my tea like we’re in a Jane Austen novel set in a cyberpunk future.

Our Love Doesn’t Scream. It Stays.

She said it best: our love never got loud. It just got deeper.

We don’t do grand romantic gestures with rented hot-air balloons or flash mobs. Our love is dancing barefoot in the kitchen, stepping around the dog, laughing when the beat is off but the vibe is right.

It’s saying, “I got this,” when one of us hits a wall.

It’s talking about nothing for hours—clouds, dreams, broken code, what the dog might be thinking—like we’re still discovering each other.

Because we are.

Soulmate? Yeah. Even Though I Used to Think That Word Was Cheesy.

Back in my day, “soulmate” sounded like something a high school poet would write in a spiral notebook with hearts on it. But then I met her.

She didn’t fix me—didn’t need to. She just saw me. Understood the quiet parts. Met me where I was and never once asked me to shrink.

I’ve seen a lot of versions of myself in this life. The stressed version. The tired version. The inspired, chaotic, sarcastic mess version. And she loved them all. Not blindly. But bravely.

Dancing Through the Static

We still dance. That’s not a metaphor.

Actual dancing. In socks. While the pasta boils and the dog tries to join in. While the day’s been long and the to-do list is longer.

It’s not choreography. It’s defiance.

Defying stress. Defying the idea that long-term love becomes beige and boring. Defying the lie that deep equals dull.

Because this? What we have?
It’s not beige. It’s technicolor.

TL;DR: I Love Her. More Now Than Ever.

Every day, I choose her. Sometimes tired. Sometimes grumpy. Sometimes dancing like a dad at a wedding. But always—always—all in.

So if you're reading this, and you’re wondering what love looks like after twenty years?

It looks like quiet persistence. Like tea refilled without asking. Like small rebellions and Sunday walks and dancing anyway.

It looks like her.

And I still love her. Increasingly. Quietly. Deeply. Every damn day.

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