The Impact of Role Models: Inspiration and Imperfection
I say yes, we all have someone that we look up to, role model, bosses, sometimes friends, sometimes family members or that public figure. Something that we want to shape our life into, people we look up to.
When we hear them speak or we watch them or see the way they act, they inspire us to be more. But sometimes just a single moment or just a little mistake done by this role model can thus change our whole narrative of who we really are. And sometimes we have to rethink why we choose such a person as our role model.
I can remember a few years back when I was in school. I had a mentor in my school field. He was very good and she was everything I would want her to be. She was skilled, she was very confident and also kind and willing to teach everyone there. I really love her whole personality.
And when she entered into the room, the way she carried herself, her whole energy would make people want to buckle up more to be like her. She was an epitome of something I would say close to perfection and she always encouraged us to dream big.
I hung on to the words. I took notes of her talks and her teachings and her correction also because she was the one I wanted to model my career path to. She was the one I wanted to model my career path to. But then came a moment where we were in our office discussing. Then suddenly a co-worker came who had been struggling with some personal issues. Then the room was quiet, waiting for when our boss, Sarah, the action she would want to take at that moment, she just overlooked the person about that time the room froze like why we should act why will she act like that this wasn't the seller that i knew she was willing to help and assist people but now she was not ready to assist or do anything about the person.
She was good but not that moment and we saw through it. That moment really pissed me off at first, it killed my motive, my admiration of her at that moment, it seems I started noticing only the bad part of her from that moment. I thought she was all kind until she proved otherwise it wasn't about the person that needed the help, it was a show of the other side of Sarah too that might be bad.
This shows that others are not perfect, even as I thought she was perfect for me as a woman, I couldn't believe myself, but I knew we humans were not perfect but it reduced my admiration for her. I lost my admiration for sarah that day and it has been very powerful lesson that these people will that we see as our women we should not think they are living a super perfect life the way we expect them to be.
Sometimes people can inspire us and sometimes they can also disappoint us. The lesson here is to take a good step, be confident know your work ethic and and know what works for you and what does not and remember that what works for you might not work for others so it's okay to let go of that hero mindset thinking that someone is a hero in your eyes your fellow human.
The inspiration is it is okay to have a role model but you don't have to pedestalize them to a very high for thinking that they are perfect as always sometimes they lack some qualities that you might not find attractive you can take the good part of them but don't think their whole life is perfect.
When someone's words or actions make you rethink how you see them don't judge them completely it's just a moment that guided you that no one is perfect. You cannot be your own part get the good out of people and don't imagine yourself being a whole person like that your role model so that is how you grow into someone who is worth looking up to also someday.
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You have say it all, we can't completely blame her because we don't know what she also is passing through that moment, they also are not perfect like you wrote , we are all human and human can change