The Power of Saying No

Hive Reach out Community, Prompt 62. Theme: The Power of Saying No.
I am blemmy89
The world today is full of people who seek applause and approval irrespective of what they are doing; whether good or bad. And only people who have learned to say no will be able to withstand such pressure.
The pressure becomes greater when it has to do with family, friends or acquittance. Most times we force our selves to say yes to thing that we clearly want to say no to. But just because it's a friend, an acquittance or a family member. We keep on saying yes against our wish, in other to please others.
Saying no to others, as difficult as it may appear, becomes more harder when it has to do with our selves. Beyond learning to say no to others, it is very important that we also learn to say no to our selves. We need to say no to all the inordinate desires and negative thoughts that comes to our minds on a daily basis.
Learning to say no can save one from a lot of troubles and pressures in life.
Personally, there are so many times that saying no to others and to myself has saved me a lot of stress and in some cases money which I can not recount all. But I will like to share a few cases that stood out for me.
There was a time one of my friends was preparing for her wedding and she wanted me to be part of her bridal train but due to the way things were at that time I couldn't afford it and I was wondering how I am going to tell her that I will not participate. So after pondering over the matter for a while, I decided I was going to borrow money for the bridal train uniform and pay latter but on a second thought, I discovered that doing that will put me through a whole lot of financial stress and burden. Finally, I decided to summon courage to tell her that I will not be able to participate because I was not financially buoyant at the moment and I did. The decision I took not to borrow saved me from the stress of borrowing for the bridal train uniform even when it was not convenient for me.
I took a decision a few years ago to stop impulsive buying because I discovered that I sometimes buy things just because they appeal to the eye or because I am persuaded to buy. I end up spending money unnecessarily on clothes, shoes and other things that I don't really need. What I did was that I took a decision at that time not to buy any clothe for a whole year. The decision I took enabled me to wear the clothes I have that I have not been wearing and it also helped me to save a lot of money.
The ability to say no when we should is something we should all master because there is great power in it.