The point of no return

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A date is the beginning of a talking stage such that first impression matters and the first meeting will determine the most likely outcome of the relationship. Now with dating, there are diverse opinions as to people's expectations. While some might want to feel it's a time when they get to know their potential partners over drinks or a simple meal, others might see it as an opportunity to satisfy their cravings or hunger. Some might even see it as a luxury ticket to be pampered with the nicest things.

There are also the mischievous ones who think that a date is a time to show off their man's looks and financial strength to their friends. Instead of going alone, they are going with their squad whom they've already briefed to place orders for food like they want to end world hunger.

A date can be anything but for me, a date should be pure. A date should be sincere and each party involved should feel safe and at ease. I hear stories about dates and I cringe. I mean if you have to be on your toes during dates why leave your home? If you are going out on dates and you have money set aside as "vex money" why leave the comfort of your home? If trust is an issue why be in the presence of the weapon that will likely fashion against you? These are pertinent questions that we need to ask ourselves before embarking on any date invite.

I don't just jump on dates with anyone because I always want to be on the safe side. I have had about just one terrible experience that I can think of in all my dating phases. Well, despite the date not going according to my standards, it was not terrible but bad. First of all if someone is inviting me out on a date, I like to give them the privilege of picking a place. That way they can plan well according to their financial strength because I'm not about to do a 50/50 date with anybody's son. I expect a date to be fully funded by whoever is doing the invite. I think its a rachet behaviour to invite someone out on a date and expect them to foot half of the bill because I will never do that to anyone.

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In my bad date experience, this guy has been on my neck and he needs to see me. He was a friend on Facebook who migrated to my WhatsApp and we vibed because I saw he holds solid conversations and seems like a pretty interesting guy. I finally honoured his date invite and when I asked him to pick a place, he insisted I do the choosing. At the time, I was due for a grocery shopping I never had the time to do so when I calculated my distance, I saw an opportunity to kill several birds with one stone. There's this outdoor restaurant which also has a supermarket. I thought it'd be appropriate to meet there so I could just do my grocery shopping and satisfy my shawarma cravings.

I told the guy about the place and he agreed to it. The day came and I had closed up early from work. I got to the venue before him so I could do my shopping before he got there. I didn't want to give him the impression that I was taking advantage of him to get him to pay for my groceries. I was rounding up my shopping when he called that he was already there so I couldn't even order for my shawarma as takeout. I just concluded I would do that when we are about to leave.

I met up with him and while he was shorter than expected, every other thing kinda ticked and I felt he would be suitable as a friend and not a romantic partner. We had several chitchats and then he asked if I wanted anything. I was already starving so I told him sure thinking he was going to get food. While he never asked what I wanted, I didn't mind because as long as it's food I don't have a preference. He got into the restaurant and came back with two blocked bottles of Tigernut juice. I felt maybe he placed an order for the food and this was just an appetizer. Well, it will interest y'all to know that the Tigernut juice was all that he ordered.

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With my hunger getting the best of me, I placed an order for shawarma and just wanted it to be ready so I could go home and devour it. While I waited for my order, this guy kept talking till all he was saying became irrelevant and it even seemed it aggravated the feeling of my hunger. My shawarma got done and I stood to pick it up wanting to leave. But this guy kept holding me back with irrelevant conversations. I made an attempt to step out but he got up and stood in my front and just kept talking. That was how we stood for over 30 minutes talking. From where I was standing I saw an empty tricycle and called on it loudly to stop. That was how I escaped and said never again will he see me.

I know people might feel it's a date for conversations but there's no how I'm in a restaurant and keeping up any conversations on an empty stomach just no how. As a foodie, I expect my date to be appetizing. I mean you asked to see me, so I expect it to be worth my while. If it was probably a movie or a place where only drinks are sold, trust I would have done something about food. But then my date agreed to meet up at a sit-out restaurant and got me a blocked juice that I can't even consume immediately. To me, it's all shades of wrong and giving all the vibes that are expected from a bad date.

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Above is my response to the inleo prompt for day 18, you can participate here

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