Decision Choice and Parenting - LOH #195
Personally, I'm not a fan of immigration. I do not fancy migrating to another country, especially when it's illegal. Probably because of an experience I had with my family when we travelled to Ghana for a religious seminar without a passport.
We were treated like criminals, and we were lucky they weren't hostile. Otherwise, we would have been killed or even jailed.
I have also watched movies of illegal immigrants and I see how they live their life in fear, always running and hiding from the police. I wouldn't want that. Not only that, but I hold myself too high an esteem to live under such circumstances.
While all my friends have all migrated to the UK and are even pushing for me to join them, it's not really in my redial to migrate to another country in search of greener pastures. For starters, the money for migration via advance study I believe if invested in my country, will set me up for life despite the economic crisis.
This is an unpopular opinion, but I feel migrating to a foreign land, especially as an illegal immigrant to earn a living is another modernized form of slavery because, truth be told, there's no place like home, and you will never get the same treatment as their citizens (I might be wrong).
Left for me, I would rather work hard and smart in my country to earn enough money to go on vacation in these beautiful advanced economies. Go for site seeing, relaxation and change of environment, then come back to my country as base.
I guess what makes me hold strongly to making it in my country is the fact that there are rich people here too and like I always use to motivate myself, "those ahead of me does not have two heads. They have one head like me and if they can make it here, so can I." At least if not for anything, for my offsprings because I owe it to them to give them a soft landing at life.
This brings us to the second question of the prompt "how I celebrate my child's day".
I try to give my child the best that I can even at my expense sometimes. I guess that's what makes me a mom right? The sacrifices.
I go further to always tell her if you make me proud, I am going to treat you to whatever it is that you want and this sort of motivates her to do better in behaviour and also in her academics.
She'd always want to be the best because she knows it comes with treats, rewards and praises. My daughter more than anything in the world, loves it when you shower her with praises.
Subsequently, she'll run a check and ask mommy are you proud of me? I'd smile and give her a big YES! then she'll nod her head in approval and say, "I want you to be proud of me mommy."
To celebrate her day, I'm either making her favourite delicacy as she's a foodie like me too or I'm taking her out for some sweets and just let her eat whatever it is that she wants.
Alternatively, I take her to the Orphanage, where she plays to hearts content with other children.
Other times, we are visiting the wild so she gets to meet or see some exotic animals.
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Your daughter is adorable!💞
Good luck in the contest! @bipolar95
Thank you 🥰
Many people are so bent on traveling out as if people in their country don't make it. I just love your opinion. Also children love it when they are celebrated and they will want to do more
If i can raise tens of millions to travel, then I don't see the nees of travelling.
You are right about children dear, thank you for reading me 😘
Yes dear, the pleasure is mine
My dear, the stories I have listened too and witnessed my self always grip me with fear when the thought of emigration comes to play. Thank God when you travelled to Ghana those people weren't harsh or something. Thanks for sharing
We were lucky indeed. Thank you for reading me 😘
It is no way to live in constant fear of the Law and those shady organizations that smuggled illegals in any given country. We make every opportunity to be self reliant, developing valuable skills and finding multiple income streams. I was just presented of an option to live in a country outside Canada to live retirement life cheaply overseas, but I know that my family and siblings depend on me and I could not bear to be apart from my sons.
We live in such difficult times @bipolar95
Wow! Really difficult times faced with difficult options. So long you earn enough to finance the basic necessities and still get some for savings, I'd say hang in there especially for your boys.
Thank you 🙂
Many people get themselves into a lot of trouble because of desperation and the illusion that "the grass is greener on the other side." I hope that people begin to make informed decisions before leaving their countries.
Sadly they don't and when they get there, some of them start regretting.
Really sad.