Marriage and Pressure: Family Expectations vs. Personal Choice

Marriage is a very big decision in our life, some lives become prosperous after marriage and some also get ruined. It depends on everyone what expectations they have from their future life partner. Nowadays, times are changing a lot and people's expectations are increasing. As social media is reaching people, people can see more and more things and this is good too, but it is much bigger than this. They are also reading Impact. I respect everyone's views, we are all unique and everyone has their thinking, it is not necessary that what you think is also what your life partner thinks, it happens very rarely.

And believe me, this decision is so big that it can bring a lot of changes in your life, both positive and negative. Nowadays many things are happening related to marriage like pre-wedding shoots and people spend crores of rupees on weddings. Yes, those who have the capacity can do it. But some people do this to show off and I am against it. If you do not have the capacity then you should spend as per your own. It would be foolish to take a loan and show people that you have done such an expensive wedding.

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Yes, many things are changing around us but there is one thing that has been going on for centuries and is still going on, and that is the dowry system. Yes, nowadays it is called by this other name but still, the girls give something to the boys and they say that we are not giving it to you, we are just giving it to our daughter. If it is directly and directly then it is the same thing and the boys also happily accept it. Instead, I would suggest here that you do an FD(fixed Deposit) in the name of your daughter, it will be better because whatever you give in the name of dowry will be spent sooner or later or whatever furniture or other thing you give will be spent sooner or later. It will get spoiled, but if you fix the same money in your daughter's name, then maybe it will be of some use in the future. What do you think about this?

By some means, my family members are also pressurizing me for marriage. Believe me, I never thought much about this, but for the last few weeks, pressure has been put on me from all sides for marriage. Nowadays it has become very difficult to find a good relationship and getting married without knowing anyone is not a good thing, hence there is a trend here in which you get a few months to know each other at least. 5 months in which you can talk to each other and get to know each other, still you have the option of whether you want to get married or not. If you feel that both of you have similar ideas then you can take things forward otherwise. If both of you wish, you can even stop the marriage.

But these days, we are seeing many people where the marriage takes place with great pomp but then gets divorced within a few days and the girl talks about her share in the property and also half of the monthly money that her husband earns. Part. Yes, this rule is also necessary, but believe me, those who need it are not able to use voice, and those who do not even need it are taking advantage of it and defaming others. Marriage is not just a union of two people, it is much more than that. You join two families and a lot of things change. After that, if you are not married then you are considered incomplete. If you want to live in understanding then you must get married but many people are breaking this trend. I used to be like this a few years ago but believe me nowadays the pressure is a lot more and you know that Who comes before the family members, I try to blackmail you in many ways, if that doesn't work then they cry and there will be no one in the marriage who can see his parents crying.

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I believe that if your relationship has gone well, then you should comfortably talk to your future husband or wife and tell them everything clearly because if you base the relationship on lies, then in the future, he or she will be selfish of you. It will only be bad. Relationships built on lies can last for a long time but do not last long. Show yourself as you are. There is no need to show anything artificial, the one you have to like will do it anyway and the one you have to dislike will do it anyway. Yes, your appearance matters a lot in the first impression.

I have seen many such cases in which I have seen many wonderful couples break up. You just present yourself as you are, let me tell you a little about myself, my social life is not that good, I have only a few friends and I am not sad about it, I am happy with the fact that my friend circle is small e and they are also very close to me. And I don't even talk that much. Yes, it takes time to open up a bit, but gradually people start liking (trusting ) me. I am a normal-looking guy and my personality is not that attractive. I get attracted in a moment but if someone spends some time with me then he can understand what kind of person I am, I am a little bored too, I don't know what will happen, I am a little nervous, let's see what else happens, whatever will happen. I will keep giving you updates, stay with me.

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