How long can you keep a secret......?
Sometimes, we often make incoherent and unbalanced decisions in life. When asked “”Why”, the answer is usually along these lines…”I had no choice”*. But truthfully speaking, we always have a choice no matter the situation. What makes some people make that wrong decision is because every choice comes with a consequence and people usually go for the easy way out rather than the difficult path.
One thing we don't always seem to recall is that…
*There is nothing hidden under the sun”.
When wrong choices are made and wrong steps are taken, , the doer of the act might forget about his or her actions later but one day, those past actions come knocking in the future.
I heard a story of a young lady who while in school was dating several different lecturers. She's what you would refer to as a call girl or a runs girl. After her university days, she decided to settle down with a good guy who came back from abroad.
All was going smoothly, until the day of her introduction (official meeting of both parents). The intending groom came with his family members to meet her family and make their intentions known but they got a shock of their life.
Do you want to know what happened? Okay chill, I'll spill the beans.
It happened that the man's younger brother was also among the family members who came along to see the intending bride. When he saw the bride to be, he exclaimed in shock and disbelief. Then he told his brother that he couldn't marry the lady.
After much questioning, he revealed the lady's past private life and he even had some erotic pictures of her back then when she was in school. The older brother and the rest of the family were shocked at how messy her past life was that they called off the wedding. The girl could only cry sadly and pitifully but nothing could be done. The cat was already out of the bag.
That's how she lost a good man.
According to what I heard, this lady behaved calmly and carried a quiet demeanor about her person, which attracted the intended groom. She was even going to church, covering herself up nicely in her dressing and attending regular programs too. It was a huge shock when that part of her life was revealed to the society. Her parents had to send her to one of her aunt's place in another state to quell the gossip.
”What point am I trying to make here?”
This post was prompted by another post that I came across on Facebook. The post was about a similar story to the one I shared above and I felt moved to share this because it speaks truth in volumes.
No secret lasts that long especially one from a terrible past. Let us be more mindful of our actions because like @luchyl posted some days ago, we reap what we sow and surprisingly, we reap in many folds.
Here's a screenshot of the post fromr my Facebook page
Had the lady in my story confessed to her hubby to be about her past before the introduction day, perhaps the wedding would still have taken place because he would have found a way to calm his younger bro against airing her dirty linens. Well, this could be possible if he loves her deeply. But… who knows?
Was I sad when I heard that lady's story? Nope, not really. I was only sad because of the consequences she was now reaping but not for her situation precisely. Afterall, she made those choices in her past with her clear mind herself.
Thanks for reading.
Images are mine except otherwise stated.
The past always come calling.
The funny thing about it is that it doesn't need one's permission or invitation to come. It shows at the moment it's summoned and most times, wreaking havoc. Her case is sad, but it's obviously the consequences of her actions back then.
I mentioned something in this line when I discussed on a similar matter recently. It was that what we do today and tomorrow will determine the records of our history. So, it's up to us to fill it with good things, or with despicable things that will remain a scar to us. Life doesn't forget what we drop in it.
And the boy's younger brother was given a pat on the back for revealing the lady's past life, while aspersions were cast on the lady. Wow, just wow. No one saw that his own past life was as rotten as the lady's. How would they even see that since after all, "it's a man's world". Therefore they're free to do anything and live anyhow.
Coming to the husband to be, who said that he's "a good man"? Does anyone know what he's been doing abroad?
I do not support the lady's past behaviors (no one knows the story behind it) neither am I
encouraging such lifestyle. It always boomerang. It always boomerang.
It's a pity this happened and I hope she finds someone who'd look beyond her past and love her.
You see that guy who sold her out, he'll receive his own visit from karma soon.
That is true. He would also have a past but it would be brushed off because he is a man.
Women dey suffer o. But this is heads up for some ladies to stop making wrong choices and if eventually, wrong choices have been made and a new leaf has 🐝 turned over, then honesty will do some good. Let the intending partner know about some things, then let him choose if he wants to continue or not.
This reminds me of another story if a lady who grew up in Enugu state but she was brought back by her aunt who runs a bar and you can imagine what followed. This aunt sold this girl to various customers. To cut the long story short, that girl ended up aborting nine children.
When she finally able to leave her aunt's house and be independent, a suitor came. A few weeks before they would travel to the village, the girl opened up to her husband to be about her past and luckily, the man loved her enough to stand with her.
Truly, at the village during the traditional marriage, her aunt took the groom aside and began to tell him all that the girl did when she was with her. This aunt didn't want the girl to be happy but unfortunately, her plans backfired as the man not only went ahead with the marriage, he exposed the aunt to the family and she was excommunicated.
I think that the reason this ladies case was bad was because she pretended to be a Mary even to her parents whereas, she was living wild.
Na wisdom all of us need o.
Happy new week sis🥰
Oh wow, I kind of feel bad for her but it's still something she had done in the past and kept quite about it especially to the man she was about to marry. Trying to hide secrets is always a futile attempt, the chicken will always come home to roost, eventually :)
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Yeah, it always does.
Thanks for reading 👍
I love your point. We all have a choice. So, someone telling me they have no choice is out of it. The difference between a good and bad choice is that some prefer to go the easiest way, which seems right to them, but the end comes with a tragic experience for them. Many of us tend to think we know the right thing even when wise people are telling us the truth, but we don't learn until we have learnt a lesson the hard way.
For people like the lady, I only pity them because of the consequences of their actions and not them, really. Many people deserve what they are going through especially when they have told you the right thing to do but still chose to do your own.
Yes, it is the same for me as well. I don't pity people who willingly make wrong and reckless choices. For every thing we sow is reaped eventually.
Absolutely.
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Everyone has one secret or the other except when not exposed.
That was why in the holy book Jesus said if any that is pure should stone the woman to death. They all walked away.
Even those people preparing to marry the girl are guilty.
Yeah, that's true.
Na only God go help us.
Thanks for reading ma
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This was such a gripping read . You told the story in a way that kept the suspense alive till the very end, and the lesson behind it came through clearly. The reminder that “no secret lasts that long” and that our past actions eventually catch up with us is a powerful one.
I also like how you tied the story back to choice and consequence it shows balance, not just judgment. A strong, thought-provoking piece. Well done
Thanks for reading and appreciating my post. I'm grateful 🙏
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Thanks