Don’t dare me

You never know the extent to which a desperate soul can go to when it’s dared. I am not one to be dared cos I can do some crazy things especially when am pushed to the wall.

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This is the tale of a once abused beautiful young lady in a sorry tale of a relationship desperate to be loved for of course she was in love. My love tales has been nothing to write home about but am glad that I could write about them now because it shows my healing process and how strong I’ve grown to become. I sure don’t look like what I’ve been through after all.

Well like I said earlier, my love story is one of heart break, abuse and betrayals. Even though I’ve not been lucky with love, I still believe in true love and hopeful to still experience one someday. I celebrate those who have been lucky with finding real love and encourage others like me to hang in there for joy is coming.

Love can push you to extremes and so I was pushed and that made me to the craziest thing in a twinkle of an eye. I was in this troubled relationship with a man whom I was in love with but somehow I can never seem to please him no matter how I tried. He calls me names and tried to bring me down and gas light me no matter how I try.

I lived to please him, I may sound stupid and someone would say why didn't you walk away but sometimes when you are in a complicated relationship it’s not that easy. I will save the details for maybe a later time.

In this story, he had accused me of throwing myself at another man and said there was evidence of my so called cheap flirting with the said man. This was very strange to me because truthfully he’s been the only man in my life and I don’t even have time to look at another man twice.

He was so jealous that I don’t even get to comfortably talk with the opposite sex or keep friends. It was an issue keeping both male and female friends. He accused me of all manner of cheapness but little did I know that he was doing this just to cover his own tracks of flirting and sleeping around.

Somehow you get to think that others are like you. Becos he sleeps around, he assumed am like him too and would stop at nothing to create issues. I was just in love and was taking all the nonsense but I would take anything else except being accused of looseness, flirting or infidelity.

Well, as the going back and forth continued I couldn’t take it anymore and he made a reference to a senior colleague of ours being aware of all the accusations against me and Infact that it was the senior colleague that asked him to confront me. I told him I was going to ask the man in question but the man was in Lagos and we were in the East. He dared me to go ask him.

This was happening around 6am in the morning. I just turned entered the bathroom, took my bath, packed up a few clothes and was headed to the park to board a bus going to lagos. Am emergency, impromptu and unplanned journey of over ten hours. I was desperate to clear my name. I have had it up to my neck.

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Thank goodness that I had some money which would be enough to carry me to and fro the emergency trip. Someone would have said why didn’t you put across a call. Well, I couldn’t just call the man in question, he was a busy person and discussing such intimate matters would be better face to face.

Ladies and gentlemen, did you know that when I got to Lagos and met with this senior colleague of ours and tabled the accusations my so called boyfriend leveled against me, the man was suprises and said he had never heard such things and doesn’t even know what am talking about.

It was all a lie. Lies to control, oppress and keep me in bondage in the name of a relationship. That’s was when I knew that my time in that relationship was up. But I still needed the courage to walk away.

You need to see the drama this guy put up on my confronting him about his lies. I cried and cried. He started placing curses on me after I told him I was totally disappointed in him. Somethings are better left unsaid but I was in hell all in the name of relationship but am glad it’s over now.

I just tell people, please don’t dare me cos I will surprise you. The man in question could not believe that I travelled all the way to Lagos just to find out the truth. Me I didn’t even believe I could do that. That’s like the most spontaneous thing I’ve done. Well, That’s what happens when you dare a desperate soul.