Self Disappointment

Expectation is the mother of disappointment, or what is that popular statement again? If you don't expect something to happen you won't be disappointed when it doesn't happen. As humans disappointment Is a normal feeling, we have all been disappointed in one thing or the other at different points in time. Because it is impossible not to expect something, and it is also impossible to get every single thing that you want. Therefore if you're reading this, it is impossible not to have been disappointed at least a couple 100 times (if not thousands of times) by now. Whether it be little things like not getting your favourite flavour of ice cream, not finding your favourite shirt or bigger things like losing your phone, working your ass off tirelessly for something only to not get it, Investing in something expecting profit and losing it all. Or devastating things like losing a relationship you held dear, Losing something very valuable because you trusted someone, you get the gist.

I have had my fair share of disappointment and I must say it is a terrible feeling to feel in that moment. Especially for someone like me who tends to think a lot and always keeps low expectations. At times it's like "Come on, my expectations were low, but I didn't expect reality to be this cruel."

One thing I have discovered about myself is that I find it hard to be disappointed in people, I tend to shift the blame to myself and ask myself what I could have done better to avoid the entire situation. Because at the end of the day, people are fallible, they make mistakes and at the end of the day, you're only responsible for what you do. Cause of that I can't think of anyone I have been disappointed in at the moment (at least that I'm willing to share), but I will share a time I was disappointed in myself. It's been a while now, but I remember it like It was yesterday. That time I was a bit low on cash and I wanted to make a quick buck here and there. That was how I saw someone who was selling a guide to make some money on a betting platform. Of course, I was sceptical, but then I have done a lot of deals with said person and I've never known him to be a scammer. So I knew he was at least going to share something with me. The contents though are what I wasn't so sure of. At first, I ignored it, but after he kept sharing testimonies, I decided to try my luck and I paid for it. To say it was a waste of the money I was low on was an understatement. All that was in the guide was how to play a game on the betting platform, and the so called tactic that was helping people make lots of money was common sense that I could have thought of if I played the game. I shrugged it off, and decided to give the game a chance, at least let me make my money back. I ended up losing about 7 times what I paid 🤣. Binned the guide and just ate my loss. I won't talk about the time I paid the same guy a little money to teach me a bit more about crypto only to find out I know more than him. I can't even explain how disappointed I was in myself on those two occasions.

The thing with disappointment though, is that it teaches a lesson. It may be hard to focus on what the lesson is during the whole ordeal but all you have to do is try to find it, and I promise you will. There's always a lesson. The lesson I learnt from that whole ordeal was to be a lot more critical before making financial decisions. And to use common sense and also to stop gambling.

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