Introverted, misunderstood and married: A journey back to love//week 107

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I loved him,yes I do but I don't think I do anymore,at what point did it start to turn sour,I don't know,I really don't know. I am always indoor even before I got married to my husband,I don't like people invading my private space because it's for me alone!.

I'm not a social person right from time,even when I go out,I do not associate with others,not out of pride but just me doing my things.

Sometimes I want to associate too but I'm not used to it,I really don't know how to start a conversation with someone I don't know.

I met kolade at a party,he was the life of the party,my only friend had invited me with numbers of pleas so I just couldn't turn her down,I decided to give it a try that day. He was so lively that he met new people that day and they conversed as if they've known each other for years,I realized he kept looking at me as if his eyes should stay glued to my body.

After the party he came to me while I waited for my friend,he introduced himself and he asked if we could be friends,at first I declined but he was persistent, since he asked for my digit,I gave it to him.

That was how it all started,kolade called everyday,I wasn't used to calling but I gave him the chance to when I realized he was an intelligent guy and he knew how to make me laugh,I started falling for him, anytime he calls to see me,it was as if butterflies was in my belly,we go out together, different kinds of restaurants,we went sight seeing and all sort of enjoyment,I love it trust me,no woman wouldn't.

We dated for 5 months then he popped the big question,he asked me if I would marry him? I didn't have an answer at first because I was 25years and marriage was not in my plans at the time but because I loved him I gave marriage a chance.

We got married and everything went smoothly at first but a year after I realized I don't love my husband again what should I do? I didn't want a broken marriage,I have heard and seen how broken marriages has affected alot of people,so I was intentional about saving my marriage.

First let me start with we stopped going out like before,I was okay with it at first but I later reacted to it.

Secondly I started to get irritated with him overstepping his boundaries,he started invading my space,that I desist with every fiber in me,I couldn't work with that.

Thirdly he has alot of friends that comes into our home,I just want to be home with my husband but here are his friends disturbing our peace. I realized I started to get overworked and distant,I haven't lived that life before,it was really hard. My husband noticed that anytime he talks to me,I wasn't always interested,if he tries to touch him,I shove him aside,it started to get bad and I needed to save my marriage.

I spoke with my only friend,she recommend that I see a counselor or a therapist,I wasn't a fan of both but I had to do something fast. I went for one and I explained everything to her,she asked if I had communicated about it to my husband,I said no because I didn't,I thought he should know everything by then,he should know the kind of wife he married if he was sensitive at all,but one thing I did not know was that "not everyone knows until you tell them your mind".

So I spared a day to communicate everything I want with my husband,I talked and he listened,he listened to the intent of my heart,he doesn't want a broken marriage too.

He said he loves me and will do everything to make the marriage work.

I continued seeing my counselor, reporting how everything has improved,then she told me to be more open to my husband at every point in time and also I should be more playful with him.

My husband improved greatly,he did everything I wanted,he learnt that I don't want my space invaded,I don't want his friends to visit often,I just want me and him most of the time except for the time when I want to be alone. I changed some things too,I was always stiff,so I started to be more playful,I spent time with my husband more and I allow my husband fully in my life,I stopped denying him of his rights.

Then my love increased greatly for him and now we are five years into the marriage blessed with a beautiful baby girl,that was my journey back to love.

This write up is coined from my imaginary thoughts,the write up is mine.

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