True friends are tough to find ~ My life story
Making friends is not supposed to be hard but if you are just like me who is socially awkward with a lone wolf personality and introvert moreover, finds it hard to approach someone then making friends can be a challenge. Whenever I try to make friends I feel awkward because I am a very shy person.
Also, I want friends only whom I can trust not so called friends. Since I have started going to school I have seen things like "best friends" and later on they end up becoming enemies. Or people who told me that I can trust them but ends up telling out my secrets to everyone else. Or maybe some people who are clearly lying and always try to convince me that they aren't. To be honest making friends was hard for me after those things happening to me and going through them was very hard for me. I was told later on that I was "Chinese" and "small eyes" because whenever I smiled my eyes would get closer also because of my skin colour is bright than others in the class.
I can make friends as much as I want but then a lot of my friends I wouldn't call them good friends. If I make everyone friends randomly then i will be seeing them certain days or places and smile, have a conversation , have fun for temporary moment and then never really contact them again. I don't want to have many friends because I want few friends that would contact me by their own will. But when I see that I am the one who is usually reaching out. Then I would feel like I am the only one who is making an effort then I would not consider themselves as my friend anymore because it would be like from one sided deep relationship. I don’t want to be the one who is always making an effort.
So, it is really easy for me to start a basic friendship but it is kinda hard for me to develop more deeper friendships. Because it is tiring and depressing. I want stronger bond and I love to put the efforts, but in return I would expect the same from the other side and it would be be nice if they are willing to do the same.
I would like to advice everyone that choose wisely who you associate with carefully. It is okay to be out there with different types of people. Just make sure to never never trust anyone with your 100%. Last thing if you can’t approach like me then with to help others as like helping someone when they need help it can be anything. It is hard for me to be the person who would say hi first.
As I got older just like others I have become picky. As a kid I did not ever care that much because I don’t have the sense as a kid. In childhood to make friends it would be like if I like football and a girl/boy likes football, so she/him is now a friend. But as we grow up as an adult in friendship it must be a serious investment.
At the age of 16 I have started to learn the true nature of people like how they put themselves before anyone or anything else. People nowadays will easily betray, spread false rumour’s and also will try anything if they are seeing me as an obstacle that needs to be removed. I have started to learn that I should not trust people easily. Because any strangers will betray, stomp me into the ground for money.
I need friends whom I can trust and that’s one of the main requirement. I need someone who is ready to do anything for me without thinking of any consequences or potential profit. That’s why I would prefer few friends then making a group of friends. True friends are hard to find and fake ones are always available. It takes me a short time to realise who can be my true friend by their actions.
It was very tough in the beginning to realise who is my real friend and who is not, I got betrayed and I did learn from my mistakes which I think not to ever repeat in my life. Fake friends are very scary they can snatch away your happiness without you realising it and later on get emotional. In this growing up process I have lost many friends or maybe none because it was only one sided like I thought them as my close ones as my dear friends but they didn’t think the same of me so I guess they were never my friends because no relationship can work in one sided.
I have only few friends and I am glad to have them in my life and one of them is @cyclopshive we know each other since 2021 and I know that I can relay on my friends when I am in trouble and I would try to do the same for them in the future.
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Fake friends are always the greatest danger we can encounter, after all, when they reveal their true face, they become our worst enemy, precisely because they have been fake friends and have discovered many of our secrets, it's like the saying we have here: the worst enemy is someone who was once a friend.
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When I was a kid it was the same they were fake but I didn't realise back then they just wanted to be my friend because of some benefits it was very hard for me to get real friends.
I believe that at this age we are very naïve and can't yet see the evil in people, which is why parental counseling is crucial to reduce the damage at this stage of life
The truth is bitter they say. We must be careful while chosen friends so that we will not end up destroying our future because of friends
Thanks for sharing
Yeah, if my old fake friends knew my position of today they would have tried many ways to destroy my image. I am glad that I am not with them anymore.
If you find good and true friends keep them with everything you have because they are hard to find.
I'm also like you. It's hard starting conversation or making friends
That's absolutely right, I have only few real friends and I am not willing to leave them at any cost.
Good to know
Greetings @ayamihaya I think that more than having friends in quantity, quality is preferable and quality is measured as you say in your post, in trust, good that you can determine who your best friends really are. A hug.
It was very hard to choose but I have made it thanks!
I don't have real friends that I can count on them, I had only one hehe , fake friends are easy to find, many of them disappointed me a lot!
That's okay, you are a king in your kingdom you don't need friends you can count on yourself <3
True, true friends are what is required!! Good you understood this at 16 only!!
I have no friend in the world actually, yes, there are people I say hello to that’s all but nothing more.
In school I was ragged so no friends there, by college, I was a meak, timid, person not able to cope up socially. Never changed actually.
I lost even those friends, like though not much in touch because they got offended because of some opinion I have.
I hardly have someone to cry freely with and anyone who understands and appreacuiates me.
But I don’t care any more… I actually don’t enjoy people that much also… I don’t go after people for friendship foor ages… and I am not lonely, though I always have, not so much coz I am always, always alone… HA!!
Well written post ma!! And good points, spoken truly!!
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I think fake friends are not friends and friend means real friends. I believe that friendship happens automatically doesn't matter if someone is introvert or extrovert. In the case of extrovert, they naturally catch the attention of many people who pretend to be friends. Moderately introvert kind of people found few real friends in life.
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