Love or Money
I've had numerous convos with different people about this topic, "love or money" and most of the time, concluding becomes very difficult. It appears that they both work hand in hand.
I got asked a similar question by a friend of mine once; the question read, "What does one need to get into a relationship". My answer was simple. I told him just three simple things; maturity, purpose and financial independence".
Stay with me as I go into a little bit of detail about these traits.
The first one is maturity. I see maturity as a very very important trait in a relationship or marriage. For a marriage to survive, both parties need to be mature or at least one.
They should know when to overlook things and when to talk about them. They must learn how to forgive, apologize and appreciate. Maturity is a very good trait and as we need it in our everyday lives, we need it more in marriages too.
The next trait is purpose. Have you asked yourself why you want to be in a relationship and what you are going to do in there? Have you really sat that to understand your point of view and reason for marriage? A relationship without purpose is hardly a relationship that can stand. You need to know why you want to go into a relationship and what you want to do there.
The last but not least answer I gave is that you need to be financially independent. Both parties need to be financially independent. Not one or none but both. Even though the man is the head of the family, in our world today, the woman also needs to be financially independent.
In that way, one can help when the other is falling short. Due to circumstances and the laziness of people, they'll love to rather depend on a man than work on their own and rather help. The purpose of marriage among others is to create a family and share love, but marriages nowadays don't have any basis for love.
I believe that, for someone to be in a relationship, he/she has to have reached a level of financial independence, a level where he /she knows he/she can take care of herself, to be able to cater for your needs and some of your wants.
I think the majority of people get into relationships for love but because of circumstances, they have to shift from their main motive to another.
The three point you made mention are true and I love the way you explain it.
Thanks for sharing this with us
Thank youu
You have said it all, maturity is one big factor that can make a marriage work.
The three points you mentioned are all relevant in marital relationships.maturity, purpose and financial independence are good ingredients that binds with love to ensure marital success.