Dad's and their daughter's boyfriends
I smiled hard when I saw this topic. Something I've been hearing about and seeing a lot in movies is what I was going to be writing about. I used to wonder why it was so but I got to understand as I was growing up.
The thing is, it's not only fathers but also, elder brothers as well. Sometimes, they get stricter than fathers. I asked one of my male friends once why they acted like that. He told me that, it's because they are guys and so they know how they are; they know the kind of conversations they have and the kind of things they do and can do. He was right, and I couldn't even argue.
The main reason why I think dads are strict with their daughter's boyfriends at the start is to protect their daughters and find out if the guy is worth it. I feel like it's a form of test for the guy. They want to know if he is a good person and worth their daughter.
You see, we live in a world where people are full of wickedness. People murder girls anyhow for money rituals and do all sorts of things to females especially. Therefore, fathers being strict at the beginning is a good move, as they take time to review who the guy is.
They do that to also check the behaviour of the guy. They want to see if the person they are leaving their daughter with has a good character. If they are going to leave their daughters in the care of someone, then that person ought to have good behaviour or character.
They do this to also set boundaries and facilitate respect for the girl and her family. Strictness is mostly associated with respect and this is right to some extent. This also creates a foundation for mutual understanding between the two parties.
As time goes on, and the relationship progresses, the strictness reduces and they begin becoming closer. If they see that the guy has passed the test, they naturally become friendlier to him and start to love him. They grow a strong bond and he takes him as one of his children. He goes to the extent of being the one ready to settle every misunderstanding between the guy and his daughter.
Trust is a gradual process and a very delicate step to take. Hence these 'steps' help in the making of the right choice as to whether the two are a perfect fit or not.
I know very well that if I were to introduce my boyfriend to my dad right now, he wouldn't act any different no matter how calm he is.
The bond a dad shares with her daughter is very special and he wouldn't want any guy destroying that.
Dad knows all the qualities of men because he was young and probably once dated. Therefore, fathers are very careful in monitoring their daughters' boyfriends, because all men's mindset when dating tends to be the same. Your post is very good, I really like reading it
Every dad being overprotective of their daughter knows fully well what boys can do as they were once boys not only that they are not blind they see what boys do with girls these days playing and toying with their heart.
Well said. Elder brother's or even all brothers aren't left out on this. A girl will sure be fortunate having both her brother's as well as her dad indirectly fighting because of her well being.
Being a father myself, I can attest to how hard it is to raise children, especially girls. It's natural for fathers to be protective of their girls. Dads make sure every man that comes into their daughters' lives truly deserves her.
Yes exactly
Well said, alot of elder brother and father are like that. I also did that to my sister boyfriend once.
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Through human conversation we can understand the right attitude of people. I hope that the creator always blesses you with all skills. Thank you very much for presenting these wonderful attitudes to us.
Thanks for adding your voice 🤗
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