An advice for all

As a teenager, navigating through life can be sometimes difficult. This is a stage where you are neither old enough nor too young. This is the stage where you need good people around you who can give you the right advice on which paths to take.

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Since is also the fundamental stage of your life, you need to take the right advice from parents, friends, and elders to be able to make the choices you won't regret in the future. As much as during this stage you'll like to do things on your own, listening to the advice of the elderly especially your own parents is very critical to your success as you move forward. This is because most times, they want the best for you, and because they are grown, they've passed through all the hard stages and they can show you how best to navigate through them.

We also learn lessons as go through life, overcome tests, make mistakes, and fall down. These lessons give us experience and also help us help people by advising them. Advice is very necessary in the modeling of one's life, and a child without it may find things very difficult when growing up and tend to regret some decisions they took.

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In this write-up, I'd like to share some advice I got as a teenager that has helped me through the years. I've learned not to let the wrong decisions of people affect me even if they are my 'close friends'. Most often at times, we want to belong. We want to have people we call friends or be part of a group of people or cliques.

While it's never a bad thing to have friends or belong to a clique, sometimes these friends don't benefit us in any way, rather they draw us on the wrong path. We allow ourselves to be influenced by them because we don't want to lose the bond we have with them. It's a really painful thing to lose a friend especially if you share a close bond but I've come to realize that, keeping them will do more harm than good than letting that person go if they are not the right one.

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Why is this so?? This is because the actions of our friends influence us more than we think and if they tend to be the wrong ones, they draw us into the negative things they are doing automatically no matter how long it takes. Let's say you don't take alcohol, but all your close friends do so. Sooner or later, you'll realize you've also started taking it because you don't want to feel left out or lose these friends.

It's okay to lose friends for the right cause. Don't be afraid to say no or to stand your ground if it is the right thing to do. Distance yourself from unhealthy friends and use that time to grow and focus on your development. After all, when the right time comes, you'll get a great friend who will stick closer than a brother.