One Hard Question For me In 2024, "Why friendship is difficult for me?"

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"A friend is one soul abiding in two bodies."

— Aristotle.



Hello Hive Learners! Welcome to my blog. Man is a social animal. He can't live alone. He always needed someone to make life enjoyable. When many people lived together at a place, they formed one Society. In a Society, a man makes different relationships with people. The most precious and the most sensitive relationship is Friendship. It connected two people emotionally on the bases of Trust.


Trust Problem


During my University Life, I have made interactions with many people. I have friendly nature and hence people take it easy to talk with me at any topic. In 2020 when I was in 6th semester, I found my one of the class fellow panicked and crying. I asked him reason behind it. First he denied and pretended to be fine but when I emphasized and showed my sympathy, he was able to share his worry. He informed me that his father was sick and he didn't have any means to pay his University fee. It was shocking condition for me as well. Anyway, I promised him to help provided that he would not share about it to anyone.

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At due date, I silently paid his University Fee and gave him Fee Slip. He was happy from this behavior. After this good deed, I always had a soft corner in my heart for him. Everytime when He needed something he asked me for help. I was always ready to help him. Within short time, we became good friends. He shifted into my hostel room. Being Roomate, now I had enough time to know about him. When I went near to him then I came to realize about him many things. Yes, he was a deceiver. He was playing emotionally with me. I was not the only man in his net. He had made similar relationship with so many people. He built friendship with them on the basis of Sympathy then he manipulated this relationship. Even he was deceiving to his parents. He took University Fee from them and consumed this amount in luxurious activities. I was panicked from his these tricks and decided to expose him. I contacted his parents silently and requested them to visit our Hostel. At the same time, I also called to all those people who had helped him. When his parents and helping people came into our hostel then I called my cunning friend to come at hostel as soon as possible. When He stepped into the hostel, he was surprised to see his parents as well as other people who were helping him with money and he was taking advantage of their sympathy. Now I asked about the sick drama from my cunning friend. He was totally ashamed. He didn't speak anything. His parents scolded him and returned all the money their son had taken on the name of sympathy. After exposing him, I broke my friendship and changed my room. His parents were providing him full university fee but he had made a bad habit of taking charity from people. Although, it was hard to terminate this habit but I made a good try for him. Later, I didn't find any case regarding him. After this incident, I concluded that it is better to keep myself alone instead of rigging from cunning people on the name of friendship.

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Friendship Limitations


After above incident, I didn't feel comfortable in making friends. I don't want to hurt my feelings at the end. Although all people are not equal but some people leave bad impression about this relationship in our mind. Many times, I did my best to make new friends but I was helpless at the end. I like to spend my time alone. Although, I have two friends from my childhood but they are enough for this relationship. Till now, I didn't have added anyone new to whom I consider for friendship. Someone had hurt my trust and It was last time for me. I got lesson and now I don't like to build trust on the people on the name of friendship.

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Conclusion


Friendship is the sacred relationship. It is easy to name someone friend but it is hard to run this relationship. It needs our trust, our help in difficult time and respect in Public. There are few people who can understand the true spirits of friendship but it is hard to find true friends in Practical Life. People take advantage from us on the basis of friendship and leave us alone when they have finished their campaign. Hence, I consider to keep myself alone from these people. I hope, you will not mind my thinking but I shared a hard reality about friendship here.

This post is my entry for HL Weekly Featured Content Making New Friends. I hope, you enjoyed my serious post. Thanks!

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Good thing you have two childhood friends. I think one can survive with that number of friends if they are true. And that already says a lot about you, because as you say towards the end of the post, maintaining a friendship over time is already quite a challenge. So you guys have been doing it for years. I congratulate you. I hope you continue to enjoy new precious moments. Who knows, maybe in the future someone will come along to widen the circle. Best regards @aslamrer

!BBH

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I 'm hopeful regarding this. We are friends and we shall keep ourselves in this relationship till our life. Thank you for visiting and commenting on my post.

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Till now, I have never been betrayed by any friend. Maybe it's because I don't consider friends easily. That's good at least it helps me to make friends who are good and worthy to be friends. I think you have shared a little bit about your friend, and you said in detail today. I think it's hard for you as you were deceived. The broken trust and broken heart restrain you from making friends easily. Whatever, It's also good and will make you alert before considering anyone friend.
!LUV

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I have learned a big lesson for this relationship. It always looked tough to consider friend to anyone for me. I 'm tired from this relationship. I have two friends that are enough for me. Thank you for good comment @intishar.

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if a friend betrayed that means he was never been a friend. And it’s always harder for good people to find real friends but come on we’re 8 billion people in the world. At the end we can find at least one or two😁 Nice post fren

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You are right, we are many people in the world. But it looked tough to find a friend for me. Real friends are rare but best in running this relationship. Thank you!

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Your post sheds light on the complexities of friendships and the importance of being cautious. I'm sorry you went through such a tough experience. May your path ahead be filled with sincere connections that bring joy and trust into your life

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I shall say Amen in your prayers. Nowadays, sincere people are very low but yes if I can find some for friendship it will be a wonder for me.

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