ASEAN Hive Community Challenge #150: Unconditional Love and Reconciliation with my Daughter is My Paramount of Happiness
It is very difficult to define the true meaning of happiness; some would want fame and money in this world or to be loved by their most admired person. As I am writing this blog, I feel tears in my eyes if there is still a place in my daughter's heart to treat me as her mom. I may not be a perfect mom; I have flaws, but how I wish someday that our bond when she was young would happen again.
We all know that we all wanted to be happy! I guess no one wants to be unhappy. Happiness can be in different forms, like becoming wealthy in life, happiness in family, spiritual happiness, and being mentally and physically happy. But I think we cannot have all of this at one time.
Self-love is also another kind of happiness, but this is the only thing that I can't have. I cannot live to become self-centered or to love myself only. If I can offer more to anyone, I will do so because it’s a different kind of happiness to become selfless.
I wish nothing had changed. I keep memorizing those happy moments that we shared a long time ago, where I felt that we were best friends, the laugh that we both shared together that I missed so much, and her angelic face that I have kept in my heart and in my mind. I do not know what happened, why she hated me so much. I keep on thinking, where did I go wrong?
We havent talked for 2 years even though that I keep reaching out her online but she continues ignoring me even my Birthay greetings, Christmas greetings for her she do not responds me.It hurts that she hates me so much.I do not know maybe its because I am poor or what and maybe what she thinks that maybe because of her money she thinks that Iwant her back.No its not that it hurts that someone abandoned me as her mother.
As a single mom of 5, I have suffered anxiety about how to raise them all, yet I fight in life for their future and dreams. I had a lot of sacrifices and faced failures, suffering a lot, yet at the end of the day, I stood up strong, not showing them that I almost gave up, not showing too much drama. It came to the point that we became homeless, and I remember we stayed at Luneta Park for a week because I did not have a proper income before.
My kids are my happiness. How I wish that before my life ends in this world, as there is no permanence in this world. I would like for me and my daughter Bembem to reconcile and bring back the love that we had just like before, that nothing has changed. I think one of my mistakes is that when she got older, I wasn’t able to show care, that I love her so much that I am ashamed to hug her during her teenage years because I thought she wouldn’t like it.
When she got 16, she started to change. I can feel she no longer speaks softly as she did before. My world turns upside down when she was my eldest and the best thing that ever happened in my life and my real-life princess.
There is no endless happiness with the joy that I have felt when I was with my eldest daughter before and that is all I only want but why is it so difficult to bond with her now is seems that she’s on the top ad we are just nothing and we have nothing that can make her proud of us.It hurts when she denies me.
How I wish and pray that there will be a miracle of her heart to notice me as her mother. I hope that we could do what we used to do before and bond with each other, live close with each other, and most of all, love and respect is paramount, and that is the true essence of real happiness.
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I lived in contentment in life, not to seek wealth because we only lived once, and we all deserved to be loved unconditionally, and love is the best happiness that we can all have. Once we have love, the happiness will follow.
All that I have now is that our memories from the past and all pictures are from my old facebook account that I keep looking at to remember our sweet loving memories.
Jim I hope that time will come we can reconcile and forget our issues and find love from each other I miss you and I love you so badly.
Kahit anong mangyari mam nanay kapa rin sana maunawaan nila. Pray.
Tnx sir pray ko lng talaga mabago na ang isip nya..
I hope someday that your daughter will also reach out to you and think of your happy times together. Open communication should happen first so the issues can be talked about, and hopefully lead to acceptance and understanding, and most especially reconciliation. May the right time to patch things up with her will come soon.
Thats is what I'm longing to happend teach and I hope that it will happened very soon.I will just continue keep hoping and praying.
This hit me so hard. I cried when your blog. Being a mother means carrying love and hurt all at once. I cant imagine how heavy the pain you feel. Happiness for you is to reconcile with your daughter. It will give you peace and happiness. Hope your daughter will reconnect with you. Because soon when she becomes a mother too its different. She still needs you, no matter what. I hope one day, you and your daughter find peace and understanding. Stay stong and pray soon, one day you will be together with your daughter. 🙏 And never lose hope.
Your blog makes me cry,keep on praying and never surrender on your daughter.She may not be soft nor giving you now the love and care that you need from her but in GOD'S time it will happen.No matter what happen you and her would always be a mom and a daughter.She is from you anytime she would comeback to you because you are her mom.You are really a loving mom.
Today's youth attitude is strikingly different, especially as they climb onto their journey into the working world and experience the thrill of earning their own income. Many of them seem to be floating in a dreamlike state, their perspectives kept concealed by a fog that makes it difficult for them to see their roots clearly. In reality, they often resist grounding themselves and choosing instead to drift above their origins. I just respectfully disagree when adults frequently assert that a child’s behavior stems from their upbringing. Their peers can lead them to act impulsively from the pressures and influences, fueled by a desire to attain what they see, and an unwavering spirit often chasing their goals with relentless determination.
Do not lose hope, yet, amid these disconcerting trends. Continue to pray and nurture that belief. in due time, God will hear your prayer as it is an incredibly powerful tool that can work its magic. In turning away from you, your daughter will ultimately come to recognize her missteps. Always remember the parable of the prodigal son, who, after his journey of self-discovery, found his way back to his loving father, ready to embrace the lessons learned along the way.
Tnx sis I am just being patient as we all know now that childrens attitude has a big different from our time where parents should be respect and beloved inspite of the disciplinary actions that weve encountered when we used to be a kid.I do not understand what is happening in this world why seems the parents and children are fallin apart.
I truly feel the depth of your longing and love in your words Madam. Being distant from someone so precious to you must be incredibly painful. Your hope for reconciliation and a renewed bond reflects the unwavering love you have as a mother. I sincerely wish for a miracle -- that her heart will open, that understanding will blossom between you, and that love and respect will bring you back together. Stay strong, and hold on to hope. Love has a way of finding its way back, even through the hardest of times. 💖
I hope the time comes when your daughter realizes how lucky she is to have a mother who loves her. Keep praying, we all know that God will answer all prayers in life. Hoping that your daughter will understand that what she has achieved right now in her life now is not true happiness,i hope that it's not too late for him to realize that hurting you/ her mother is a million times more painful for in hearts.just keep believing what ever reason your daughter for hurting you, she still miss you and love you.
When we teach them how to be strong independent people, they also see our personality while bringing them up, before we realize they're more than what we expect. Anyway, your child has her own thinking for now she's overwhelmed with what she has of her own world but in the end, our children come from us they will always come back to us. The wise thing you do is teach your kid how to be independent and that's very hard to do us a mother for now days and you did it. anyway, she's so pretty like you and all the children you have are so cute.
I can feel how much you love your daughter and it's heartbreaking to know despite your willingness to reach out, she shows silence. Just keep holding hope and trust that when she's ready she'll remember that you never gave up on her.
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May healing happen soon by the grace of God. Life is full of different seasons. This may be the season to be sad but it won't last long because a season to rejoice will take over. With a mother's heart, we deeply feel your utmost longing. Surrender them all to Him. Keep the faith and prayers. One day, God will lead her back to your loving arms to dispel whatever stains your mother-daughter relationship. Godbless!😍