With Love and empathy, discipline because better

Discipline is one thing that we Africans cherish a lot. Everyone has a way of discipline when it comes to parenting. What works for you might not work for me because we are different. Maybe I might decide to ask my child to sweep the house because he did something very bad as way to discipline that child. And because that child hates sweeping with passion it may work.

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But what of a child that loves sweeping alot. Such discipline will not work for him or her. In fact that child will say that it will be better to offend mummy everyday so that I will be asked to sweep because I love sweeping.

From the illustration above, we will know that I can not decided for another person how to discipline his or her child. I prefer that we can just advice each other on the issue of discipline and allow us to make our choices based on the kind of children that we have.

In school we can also consider corporal punishment. Maybe because that is what we accept these days on school. But when we get home their are hundred and one ways of discipline that we can use to correct a child. For those of us that don't want anyone to beat our children. Hmmmm! I wonder what kind of children we are raising. I have seen where mothers and even fathers rush to school to fight with a teacher because the teacher tries to correct a child. This is a very bad one. When we were growing up, we were meant to accept that once a child comes out of the womb, it doesn't belong to the mother alone. Everyone on the community has every right to correct our children. But today, the reverse is the case. The bible tells us that when we spare the rod, we will spoil the child at the end. If you don't allow discipline on your children, then we have a very big problem in the future.

MY OWN WAYS OF DISCIPLINE FOR MY KIDS.

I use cane when is necessary. This is one of the instruments that gets children scared. For some children, it is better that you starve them instead of flogging them. I don't do it often because I won't also want the child to get used to it.

Another method that I use is dialogue. One of these days my daughter now grown up told me that when she was small, she usually fear those moments that I will wake her up in the middle of the night when everyone is asleep and talk to her. She said that sometimes when I am talking, she feels like the ground should open up and swallow her. It was then that I know how strong that weapon is.

Another way tok is buying gifts for other children and refuse to buy for that particular one that I am punishing. This one also makes children do what they never wanted doing because of tomorrow when I am Coming, I should also buy her a gift. With these most times my children are calm because they don't know what to expect.