Come On, It’s 2026!
When I was a kid, I liked going through my mom’s phone. It actually became a hobby at one point. I know it’s not a good thing. I mean, now I know, but I didn’t at that time. That time, I just found it interesting to know what my mom was doing and all.
At one point, my mom realized, and she told me to stop, but I didn’t because, to me, I was even helping her. Yes, I know you are asking how. I thought it was just cool to go through her gallery and entertain myself because what’s the whole point of the pictures she was keeping? And especially because most of them were even family pictures.
But now that I’m grown, it’s like I don’t even want to know her business. I don’t want to know what she has in her gallery because it’s her life, and she can do whatever she wants. Aside from that, I don’t think it’s cool to invade her privacy. And I also don’t think I would be happy for her to go through my phone too.
And this is the fundamental for me. It’s something that I live by. Whatever I wouldn’t want to experience, I’m definitely not doing it to someone. If I don’t trust someone, then why would I even be with them in the first place?
You know what I think about these things? It’s like being so paranoid at night and scared because you think you might see a ghost. You know what will happen? You will see a ghost, and the funny part is it might not even be a real ghost. It might just be the wind blowing a tree branch to make it move, but since you want to see a ghost so bad, you’ll just see it.
This isn’t even about ghosts.
Most people who look through their partner’s phones have a reason. They sometimes are looking for things that do not even exist, and so anything that they see, they make meaning out of it. From experience, these are even the ones doing the worst things behind their partners' backs.
It’s 2026, and you’re with someone you don’t trust? You’re going to be anxious all the time, and it’ll show so bad in how you behave. In the end, you might actually catch your partner doing exactly what you thought she/he was doing, but the damage to your mental health would have already been done. Oh, and the last thing you need to know? There won’t be any chance to go back.
So anytime you feel like going through someone’s phone, just take a walk instead, and you might just burn some calories. And that’s still a win because it’s healthy living.
Images are mine
Seriously, if you don't trust someone, why be in a relationship with them? People always find new ways to hide their deeds. So why bother yourself with stress and the mental exhaustion about the issue? You don't think you trust someone, just don't be involved in that relationship with them.
You get it!! The mental exhaustion!!! I wonder why people put themselves through all that.
I have access to my husband's phone, and he does to mine. We don't keep tabs on each other, but I can check his phone and messages whenever I feel like. That's how close we are. I don't get paranoid about anything, and we trust each other greatly.
The fact that you trust each other is the most important thing and it’s enough.
I did this, too. For me, I was more interested in playing snake games. Well, it was just this small Nokia 3310 then and there was nothing fancy to keep me entertained except the games and yes, I was helping her to use the phone.
You are right, Abenad. I think checking your partner's or anyone's phone isn't a bad thing, especially when you are allowed to have access to it but it becomes insecure to want to intrude deeper, looking for what wasn't lost. This only leads to issues later and it's better to take a walk like you said. You could do yourself some good burning calories than causing trouble.
Yes, you really become insecure. That walk is very necessary 😂
Why would I go through your phone when I can just ask you. It’s not even with the energy and stress. Life is too short to be insecure.