The Heart of Forgiveness

I have come to realize that in life, there are always different ways in which we must live with the multidimensional aspects of life. In the end, life isn’t straight; we experience ups and downs, and there are times when things come smoothly for us, and times when we face it rough.

The challenge here is, how can you cope?

As humans, we are gifted the ability to express ourselves and also the ability to relate with one another. This relationship is surely going to come with some price. We are not created equally, just the same way our fingers are not equal.

Even within our immediate family, siblings, there is still this inequality, and it's just a part of life. Sometimes you have someone among you so rich, and in the same family, you can also have another poor person. Not that the poor one doesn’t work for riches, but I guess they are just fated to be that way.

Some might be beautiful, and some ugly, some might be abled and some disabled, some might be fat and others slim, so this inequality continues.

I remember a time when I was in university, I had two roommates then, and the two of them are actually gifted, but in different ways. The first was gifted academically, and a scholar in his department; he is also okay financially. But the second was also gifted academically, but never took his academics seriously; he preferred to play street football, miss classes and lectures, and most times was financially drained.

Myself in between both, I am not the playful type, not too gifted, and someone who tries to understudy people before relating with them. Our first year together was a tough one. I was just left in between, most times I am they bring their misunderstandings to me. The two of them are always quarreling.

I told them one day that for how long do they have to continue this way? Fighting over petty stuff, creating misunderstandings, and not accepting each other. I told them that it’s not about now that truly matters, but what the future is like. When you get to leave each other, then what will you say about yourselves?

Will you be able to have that forgiving heart and forget about the way you guys behaved? If you can’t do that now that you are together, then how about when you part ways?

I believe as humans we are bound to offend each other, bounce off each other, underestimate and undervalue one another, envy and jealous one another, and with all of these, we find it inevitable not to hurt each other's feelings. Even at times from disappointments.

With all of these, we still have to try having the heart to forgive and also try as much to forget. Forgiveness could come that easily, but I tell you, forgetting is the main deal. It's kinda easy to say “I forgive you, man,” but not remembering that stuff anymore is not something everyone can do.

The best deal is when you can forgive and forget, and this is because there is always this kind of peaceful existence that comes from letting go of grudges, misunderstanding, and feeling free with everyone with a pure heart.

Over time, I have learned to practice this act, and it's been helping me live a good life. Having the mindset that I will always be on the bad side of some people, everyone won’t love me equally, and I also can’t satisfy everyone.

Forgiving and forgetting is not an easy act, but with consistent practices it will surely be a part of you.

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This is my response to the HIVE LEARNERS weekly prompt in the hive-learners community for the Week 178 Edition 2, and the topic to be discussed is FORGIVE AND FORGET.

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